Wednesday 14 August 2013

Poverty and Child Abuse

Every child despite his individual differences and uniqueness is to be considered of equal worth. He should therefore be entitled to equal social, economic, civil and political rights, so that he may fully realise his inherent potential and share equally in life (Gill, 1979).
 Obviously, these values are rooted in the humanistic philosophy of any nation's declaration of independence. In accordance with these value premises therefore “any act of commission or omission by individuals, institutions or the society as a whole, and any conditions which deprive children of equal rights and liberties and interfere with their optimal development, constitutes by definition abuse or neglectful acts or conditions” (Gill, 1979). Child abuse is a significant contemporary community problem. Although children have been maltreated throughout history, our community has been silent in defence of abused children. Child abuse is not a phenomenon of the 20th Century nor is it unique to our society and culture alone. It has occurred throughout the recorded history of man. The future of any nation depends on its children and their capabilities. For this reason, they must be given a full chance.

Being young is hard enough but having to live through pain and torment while growing up is grueling. A UNICEF reports shows that estimates of eight million Nigerian children are involve in hazardous and exploitative work. It’s frightening to know that every ten seconds child is abused. In Nigeria today child abuse kills more than accident in the homes.

         

Throughout history children were considered the property of their parents, and therefore used as they deem fit. This slave like relationship led to increase of children who experienced abuse may adopt this behaviour as a model for their own parenting.

         

Children are abused in numerous ways physically, emotionally and sexually. Abuse affects people in various ways, and in the process of growing up, many do not realize the problems they encounter are directly attributed to the abuse. Seventy percent           (70%) of the children abused and neglected numerous kinds of dubious characters. The fatalities were to children under the age of five years old. Small children are especially vulnerable to physical injury such as road accident, ritual killings hunger and all sort of hazards.

         

Children are been abuse in different way. Ranging from child labour, begging, sexual harassment, human trafficking, molestation by parents or foster parents etc.

         

Most children are molested and abuse by their parents, the people suppose to show then love and affection. Beating of children is almost universal in Nigeria homes and is applied frequently, as a mode of discipline for almost any type of misdemeanor, however trivial. Some forms of punishment meted out to children are extremely harsh and are both physically and emotionally dangerous. An example is the cutting of incisions on the backs of children’s hands as a punishment for petty stealing within the household, resulting sometimes in infection and leaving permanent marks of shame. Sometimes, pepper is applied to the incisions, or to sensitive parts of the body such as eyes or genital to cause excruciating pains.

         

Two groups of children tend to be especially vulnerable to the risk of abuse with the home. The first are foster children who according to the 1999 Nigeria demographic and health survey (NDHS), are to be found in nine percent 9% of Nigerian household.

         

Traditionally. It was a wide spread cultural practice for poor families to make arrangements for the fostering of one or more of their children, usually with more prosperous relatives or community leaders, pastors, teachers or malamai, the aim is to improve opportunities for education and eventual employment in exchange for the child’s labour.

         

Increasingly, this traditional system has become subject to abuse, with children ending up in the custody of unscrupulous guardians unknown to parents, sometimes as a result of trafficking by commercial middlemen, children fostered in such circumstances are likely to receive less effective, care and support than other children in the household and sometimes to be ruthlessly exploited.

         
         
Poverty has driven millions of Nigerians children into types of labors that are exploitative, hazardous and prejudicial to their welfare and development. Poverty, along with certain cultural traits, has also resulted in the spread of child begging.
         

 Some children out of hunger, tend to engage in begging to meet necessity of life. Child begging has many negative effect like:
-  it is time-consuming in that it does not allow a child to learn, secondly,
- they end up engaging in deviant types of behavior such as
1. theft 2. pick-pocketing, 3. thuggery 4. vandalism,

Millions of Nigerian children face special problems of disadvantages, discrimination, abuse and exploitation, sometimes in appealing circumstances. These problems not only compound the risks of survival create for middable obstacles for the development of children, but are major challenges in their own right, requiring special protection measures if they are to be addressed effectively.

         

Not only does child abuse have many societal consequences, but also individual consequences that produce life long scars. We have a responsibility as human beings to do all that we can for these children. Some of us fulfilled this responsibility by promoting awareness, donating time, money or services by generating laws, passed and by enforcing laws that protect children from all kinds of abuse. Through referral in the community, counseling and preventing method, children abuse and maltreatment will decrease as society becomes more aware of the consequences. It is important to examine the physical, emotional and mental effect of child abuse as many children can develop serious issues as adult when abused.

         

As a matter of fact, children needs parental care, therefore, parents should try as much as possible to give their children full attention and close supervision. Parent should also stop the act of sending their children to foster parents. The wisdom behind this is that, parent should only bear children that they can be able to carter for. Birth regulation should play an important role here. Because high rate of childbirth plus poverty leads to child abuse and molestation.

         

Parents should also understand that beating children and all sort of punishment meted out to children are dangerous to their health. There are “hundred and ten” ways of discipline; one must not inflict his child with all sort of punishment as a measure of discipline.

         

Government on their side should take all appropriate legislative administrative, social and educational measures to protect the child from all sorts of physical mental violence, injury or abuse, neglect and maltreatment.


Government has initiated policies that tend to rehabilitate abused child. These programs or policies have less impact because they are based mainly on treatment of the abused children and less on the abuser.

         

In order to decrease the instances of child abuse, the Nigerian government needs to institute treatment programs for people education for parents to help them cope with stresses that may cause to abuse their children.



Friday 9 August 2013

Become one of the gifted, empowered women God is raising up.

RAISING GODLY FEARLESS CHILDREN


First of all, Galatians 3:13-14 says, “Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree: That the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith.”
This is a very familiar scripture to most believers. It is a foundational truth in our lives. We have been redeemed from everything under the curse of the law. We don’t have to put up with it! There has been much teaching about our redemption from sin, from sickness and disease, from poverty, but not much teaching about the part of the curse that has to do with our children. That is what I want to focus attention on here.
The curse of the law, stated in Deuteronomy 28, mentions children in two verses: Verse 32 says, “Thy sons and thy daughters shall be given unto another people, and thine eyes shall look, and fail with longing for them all the day long: and there shall be no might in thine hand.” Verse 41 says, “Thou shalt beget sons and daughters, but thou shalt not enjoy them; for they shall go into captivity.”
This is the testimony of many parents today. They watch helplessly as their children are taken captive by the world—drugs, alcohol, perversion and so forth.
As believers, we can use our authority and stand against these forces. According to Galatians 3:13, Jesus has broken the power of the curse, so we have the right to order Satan out of our children’s lives.
Like most parents, a particular woman called Gloria and her husband kenneth had to deal with the problems of rebellion in their children. they realized that it had to be stopped quickly before it developed into a serious situation. Don’t be guilty of ignoring symptoms of rebellion when your children are small. Don’t simply excuse it as a stage they are going through and think that they will grow out of it. If you ignore it when they are small, you won’t be able to handle it when they get older and the rebellion has had time to develop into a strong force. When they saw this occurring, theye immediately went to the Word. Gloria spent much time searching for scriptures they could use to combat these forces. Then they both came together and confessed these scriptures before God. We took authority in the spirit world and refused to give Satan any room to operate. This is our responsibility as Christian parents. A child does not understand the spiritual forces coming against him, so it is up to the parents to fight the spiritual battles and keep Satan out of the child’s life.
This is what they did 1. We used the Word and exercised our authority over rebellion at work 2. they took every opportunity to minister love to the children. 3. Whenever they came around them, they would express their love in some way. It didn’t take long for them to begin responding to that love. Don’t hesitate to show love to your children. They will respond to it. ACCORDING TO THEM: '(It wasn’t always easy. There were times when we wanted to break down and cry or lose our temper or do something in the natural, but we would remember Jeremiah 31:16-17, “Thus saith the Lord; Refrain thy voice from weeping, and thine eyes from tears: for thy work shall be rewarded, saith the Lord; and they [your children] shall come again from the land of the enemy. And there is hope in thine end, saith the Lord, that thy children shall come again to their own border.” My own mother cried over me for 15 years. Then one morning she threw her Bible on the kitchen table and said, “Lord, I’ve cried over him for the last time. I’m turning him over to You. If You can do anything with him, do it. I’m through!” In less than a month from that day, I was saved!)'

Mothers, take God’s Word for it. Receive Jeremiah 31:16-17 for yourself. Stop weeping for your children and start believing the Word. That’s the only thing that will bring them around.
Fathers, I am speaking to you too! It’s time for the fathers to get involved in the spiritual activities of their families. For too long, the women have carried more than their share of family responsibility. Husbands and fathers, get on your knees before God and accept your place as head of your household. You are the prophet from God to your family. This is not a lightweight thing; it takes a commitment on your part to fulfill your responsibilities. Get yourself straight before God, then see to your children. If necessary, go to your kids and ask their forgiveness for neglecting them.

I have had to learn these things the hard way, and I know what I am talking about.
II Peter 2:9 says that God knows how to deliver. He knows how to do it, so give Him the opportunity. It doesn’t matter where your children are—in the room or a thousand miles away. You don’t have to be in their presence to take authority over Satan.

Christian women are often led to believe they were created inferior to men, destined to play a secondary role. Proverbs 31 gets morphed into a judgment, the sole standard against which many feel like frauds or failures. But the Bible has much more to say about women!

Looking into the lives of 22 mold-breaking women of the Bible, bestselling author and women's advocate J. Lee Grady shows that God enables His daughters for amazing--even impossible--exploits. Lee also reveals the empowering, often-overlooked gifts God gives each of His daughters--gifts like wisdom, fruitfulness, boldness and leadership. When women accept and use these gifts, they can live the fearless and beautiful lives of purpose God has ordained for them


In a day and age where the world tells our daughter’s that their worth is only found in how they look or what they do, they need to know that they are valued and loved first and foremost for who God has made them to be.

That above all else they are cherished and loved as daughters of the most High King.
As parents we must be on the front lines in the battle for their hearts because if we don’t…someone else will!


CHEERS!!!!!!